Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband.
Eph 5:33 NASB
This one verse when applied by a husband & a wife can cause a marriage to move more and more into the Blessed State which God intended. Notice the man is commanded to love his wife and how he is to do so. He must first have a healthy love for himself, which comes from an accurate embrace of the Love of God for him. The wife is commanded to respect her husband. The Father knew that invested in the woman absent the influence of the Holy Spirit is the tendency to not respect her husband. Once she loses this respect or chooses not to respect him, all manner of trouble can occur. The bottom line is this – both the husband & the wife must be responsible for the success of their marriage. His contribution is love & hers is respect. The Father commanded it because He knew we would not do this on our own. Examine yourself!